I’ll never forget that moment when I walked off the stage destroyed. Every eye in the room was looking at the floor or the ceiling, avoiding eye contact of pity with me.
I felt anger, desperation, and pain.
I wanted to scream “I’m better than this!” I wanted to cry and disappear from planet Earth. All at the same time.
This is what you feel when you first try to give an impromptu speech in front of strangers and you blow it.
2 years later, a winning trophy was born out of that pain.
Many years have past and I still remember the pain. Back then I wished it never happened. By today I know, that pain was essential for me becoming who I am today.
Without pain, there is no growth.
Pain is the sign that you are out of your comfort zone. And that is the place where change happens.
So if you feel grave pain right now, try to put it this way: without that pain, you feel right now, you wouldn’t be able to grow to become a more opened listener, a stronger support for your spouse, or a more impactful speaker.
8 years ago on that stage, I learned that no matter how good you think you are, you have to remain humble. Unexpected situations can always happen, and humbleness will be the only thing that will keep you from beating yourself up after an unexpected challenge.
Back then I wished that it had never happened. By today I’m grateful for that lesson.
Who knows, one day you might as well say thanks for the pain you feel today.
I talk about pain and growth and my latest experience on this in the video below.
Hope you’ll enjoy.
(Better image and voice quality, than before.You know… growth. ;))